How parental fears can shape a child and create more challenges in their adulthood?
Well, if a parent is an anxious human who is constantly scared of the world and its dangers, then the offspring will grow up exactly the same way. This life matrix was hardwired to his “hard drive” on a subconscious level of mind.
I know it’s tough to let your children fall so they learn how to get up, it’s scary to let them make mistakes for their own sake.
But if you decide not to and keep on discouraging your child from taking an action, if you say NO to his attempts to “climb the ladder”, he will stay on the bottom of the ground, not believing in his choices or abilities.
P.S. These are the conclusions I made after overhearing the dialogue between a mother and a 15 year old teenage son today at the Solebury Orchards, New Hope, PA:
-Mom, there is a ladder! I want to try and climb it to get the cherries up top.
-No, don’t do that! You can hurt yourself.
Son walks away, discouraged by his mother’s words. If she doesn’t believe he could successfully climb the tree on a sturdy metal ladder, then how he can believe in himself?
P.P.S. Though I am afraid of height, I seemed to be the only woman who climbed the ladder a couple of times and gathered sour cherries. Then my daughter and I moved on to blueberry picking. It was a real pleasure since bushes are much easier to handle than trees. Everything is seen through comparison…
Standing in front of a high metal ladder I simply asked myself: do I want to be scared and go home without berries or do I dare to climb it and get what I came for? I chose the second option. Never regretted it.
Believe in yourself! You can and you will!
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